My husband’s niece is getting married. She is a super busy doctor with no time to plan a wedding.
“I have no idea where to start,” she says with despair. “I have no time. I work 12 hours shifts. I’m so busy, I eat my lunch in the elevator at the hospital.”
After 20 years as a wedding photographer, here’s a round-up of wedding advice for my beautiful niece, and other busy brides like her.
One Year in Advance
- Choose your wedding date
- Make guest list so you know how many people are coming
- Make a spread sheet of guest’s address, phone numbers and email addresses (good job for dads. If they do it with Google Sheets, the two dads can work together)
- Email your wedding guests to tell them your wedding date, and that a paper invite will follow
- Book the church
- Book the venue
- Book limo
- Book vendors, such as the photographer, videographer, DJ, string quartet, drummers, belly dancers, etc.
- Ask friends to be in your bridal party
8 Months in Advance
- Buy a dress
- Buy wedding rings
- Order flowers
- Order wedding cake and sweet table
- Order invitations
3 Months in advance
- Send out invitations
- Rent or buy formalwear for groom
- Go for makeup trials
- Book a stylist and try hairstyles
1 Month in advance
- Apply for marriage licence
- Bride – try on dress. Get altered if necessary
- Groom – try on suit if owned. Rent if not. Get altered if necessary
- Call any guests who have not sent in RSVP
- Plan reception seating chart
- Print place and table cards
- Reconnect with vendors
- Give limo company pickup times and locations.
2 weeks before
- Give venue final head count, including photographer, videographer
- Hair cuts for bride and groom
1 day before
- Write cheques for final payments due at the end of the reception
- Give best man the officiant’s payment, to be given after the ceremony.